No Sex No Talk!
Well I really don’t know how to start this. Since its actually my first time to write something. I went out with my good friend last night. We were drinking and dancing in the club, and the intention wasn’t trying to hunt cock or get laid. Just enjoy clubbing and hopefully can meet some decent people to talk to. So we were very friendly to people who came to talk to us. There is an mid-age European guy came and start talking: Hi. Whats your name? Where are you come from? Bla bla bla…so I answered. Then the next question is: Would you like to come to my place? I said: what? Excuse me? No! Then he just said: Ok. Good luck! Bye! The whole conversation lasted less then 5 minutes. It took me 5 second to get back to reality: Wow! That’s it? No sex no talk? And I need to clarify: We were not in a hooker bar or tong ren rd.
After a while, people were getting drunk. Some guy just start dancing and touching me without any conversation! I pushed him and asked him to leave me alone. And his friend came by and start shouting at me: Whats your fucking problem? I was amazed by such rude attitude. I go out a lot and it was my worst night ever.
I would like to ask everybody. Is this normal? Or only happens in China or Asia? Coz I never been to US or Europe. I believed some of you would say: well, they are drunk. But I don’t think you can do whatever you want and blame it on alcohol. People can be drunk and still behave. Or maybe some people would say: It actually happens everywhere. Right. I believe that. But after it happened several times in one night. I start wondering: Is this normal? Or westerners changed who they are after they live in China for sometime. And think they can just do whatever they want. Or they are spoiled by Chinese culture and Chinese people? And forgot how to respect woman? Or they think Chinese woman don’t deserve respect? Or they acted like this because its allowed?
After a while, people were getting drunk. Some guy just start dancing and touching me without any conversation! I pushed him and asked him to leave me alone. And his friend came by and start shouting at me: Whats your fucking problem? I was amazed by such rude attitude. I go out a lot and it was my worst night ever.
I would like to ask everybody. Is this normal? Or only happens in China or Asia? Coz I never been to US or Europe. I believed some of you would say: well, they are drunk. But I don’t think you can do whatever you want and blame it on alcohol. People can be drunk and still behave. Or maybe some people would say: It actually happens everywhere. Right. I believe that. But after it happened several times in one night. I start wondering: Is this normal? Or westerners changed who they are after they live in China for sometime. And think they can just do whatever they want. Or they are spoiled by Chinese culture and Chinese people? And forgot how to respect woman? Or they think Chinese woman don’t deserve respect? Or they acted like this because its allowed?
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Permalink Reply by jacky on -
Or they are spoiled by Chinese culture and Chinese people?
--------- gold is gold wherever it is, how can u ask this kind to mean question ?
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Permalink Reply by Amélie on -
This happened to me everytime I went to a bar....That is because in most bar...guys just wanna find some girls fuck with...they asked u like that is because they wanna"free fuck"...
BTW I'm pretty smart I always go there with my strong friends...haha...
Suggestions for u ...or not go to bar any more...or go to bar but do not talk with them...do not trust those guys u met in bar....they just wanna sex....like some guys told me"men are dogs....""guys all bad..."-->even guys told me tho...
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Permalink Reply by Joy on -
yes,rubbish man is everywhere, they take sex as their way for life,so just let them go away,cherish ourselves.
we talk with foreigners just coz we want to improve our english,know something in other countries,and make friends with me,but not means we are girls getting ready to ml with anyone.
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Permalink Reply by cpr on -
Normally we speak as soon as we have things to say, and after you have the sex, but we, the men, we aren t very clever, so quickly, we have nothing to say, so we want pass quickly to the next step whereas you the women are more clever than us could speak during a long time.
Me personally, I m so chatterbox, but I say only uninresting things so…??? ;-)
CPR
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Permalink Reply by Neadin on -
sigh....that's why I've never gone there....and am wondering if I should go there for once....to meet other shanghaistuffers ^o^
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Permalink Reply by Mauro 马文乐 on -
This is a good discussion...I'm European and I think that in Europe most of the people don't act like that. There are various reasons why foreigners in Asia behave like that.
I think the problem in Shanghai is that most of the foreigners, are business man, they come in China to work, they are very very busy, they don't have time to make new friends, maybe they cannot speak chinese and they don't know and they don't care so much about the chinese culture. They have money but not so many friends to share with and not so many real relationships. They go to clubs and they meet so many beautiful girls (because I think oriental girls are very beautiful and very feminine), the music is high, they don't care about the judgment of local people because they are not from their same culture and they want to have sex with one of this beautiful girls. It's very simple and there is nothing strange in a big city like Shanghai.
Sex for men it's very important, we can do it without love, sometimes the desire it's so strong that we need to meet a women body to reach the orgasm and release our old seeds,
No sex No talk happens frequently in Shanghai, because some girls like it too, also a girl sometimes wants to be hugged by a strangers and make love with him, also girls sometimes make sex without love.
So the aim of that guy maybe was only to find a sex partner for that evening, and if you try with 100 girls at least one will come with you!
Don't be sad it's very normal in big cityes, also in Milan where there are lot's of foreigners it's like that, whit the only difference that there are not so many beautiful chinese girls!!
It's nice to make love but it's also nice to make sex sometimes, the feeling is totally different but the orgasm it's like a glimpse to illumination...
Just be tolerant with this guys in this kind of situation, and if you don't want sex just say it and don't feel bad about that...if a guy really like your soul will call you again the next day to meet you outside.
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Permalink Reply by Sophia on -
haha. different experiences and background make different comments! but I like your comments the most. Of course I totally understood. I wasnt upset actually. Just thought this topic might be worthy for people to discuss and think.
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Permalink Reply by kost on -
girls seems know guys too few...
well, about hooking up problem (or where is the problem, anytime).. it happens in every big cities as open-mindness and craziness.. besides that.. all we know the quantities of 'free to chat and come up' chinese girls in shanghai.. then all we know the quantities of chinese girls willing to try foreign dick and also hating chinese for this................. yes, not all, but many.. i hate them for it, but ther are still some my chinese friends like that...
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if u go out with ur female friends, u will get the chance to have many guys to try u out.. if u stay at the bar or alone at the place.. u will be tried as well.. if u look around the dance floor.. u will be tried... and guys..? most of the them coming for sex and its a point... girls that do as well, but in more hidden..
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do u know how many girls try to come up to me and dance and bla bla bla... specially when drunk..? dont i know what they want? ...
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Permalink Reply by Felicia on -
I can understand u a lot,coz I've been there. Many guys at clubs just want to get into ur pants, they came to talk to u.Their purpose is too obvious,so it's common and natrual.U'll get used it soon.But nomatter what they want, as a girl,we just should know how to protect us from being hurt,that's fine~
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Permalink Reply by Jessie Feng on -
dont let them break ur good mood. the most important is to be sure what u want .give them a smile没什么大不了的～～～
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